Archive for February, 2012

So, I’ve finally decided to leave my apartment in May.  Basically, I’m annoyed that my roommate raised the rent and that the living room is always crowded with weed smoking buddies of his. I need a bit of a lifestyle upgrade so I’m willing to  pay a little more money for a little more privacy.  My own  private bathroom would be nice too.

During my search, I’ve considered Brooklyn quite a bit due to cost and the fact that certain parts of Brooklyn are “up-and-coming”.  But then, I thought about how many dates I’ve had where the girl is from Brooklyn and comes to see me, in the east village in Manhattan .  I thought about the few girls from the Bronx that made the trek to my neighborhood to meet.  I thought about all the chicks from the Upper East side, Harlem, and the Upper West Side that make the trek to my neighborhood to see me.

Brooklyn? Fuck that.

My neighborhood is ranked #10 on “The Most Livable Neighborhoods in New York” , but of course the writers don’t take into account favorable logistics to get laid and add new women to your life easier.  So I’m staying in downtown Manhattan and would prefer to stay in the neighborhood I live in now.  But I’d consider other neighborhoods (Soho, West Village, Chelsea) too.   The reason is that these areas are considered “hip” so when you invite someone out who doesn’t live in the neighborhood, it works in your favor.  I’ve been seeing a girl from Brooklyn recently who always makes the trip to see me, and that’s how most of my casual relationships have gone since I’m around all the bars, cool places to eat,  and nightlife.

It’s a classic example of Lifestyle helping my game

 

Silly shit that women say online

Posted: February 16, 2012 in Uncategorized

Here’s two examples for the past two days, I got a chuckle out of them

“Hey sexy good mornin well im xxxx im 30 from nj and im a nurse and a mother and i read ur profile and i like that ur goofy cus im goofy and clumsy and i lose my phone toolol so far we got alot in common im also a big gurl i do work out so i wouldnt mind workin out wit u and im lookin for a dude that will look past my weight and get to kno me for me if that u message me”

 

This one is where the girl basically sends me a message out of the blue…to dismiss me! haha

“You sounded awesome up until the whole agnostic thing…:(…Good luck on your search sweetie! :)”

 

 

Rule Number one with online dating

Posted: February 15, 2012 in the game

A few friends of mine have been asking me for tips for getting dates from online dating sites.  And honestly, I can say with 100% assurance that a good picture was the biggest difference maker with me.  Around August 2011, I was out at a concert with a friend of mine.  One of these small social networking sites had a photographer there taking pictures.  A few days later, I went on the social networking site and saved my photo.  I liked the photo so much that I put it on my okcupid profile.  My results literally skyrocketed to maybe getting a date or two every couple of months to juggling 3 or 4 during the week.  I didn’t do a spreadsheet or anything to track ratios, but I was getting random “you’re handsome!” openers from women whereas beforehand I could barely get conversations flowing.  I’ve probably had more dates (more lays? debatable.  I’ve had a few good runs that rival right now) than I’ve ever had in my life.  It’s one thing to talk about outcome independence when dealing with women, but it’s a whole different story when it’s actually occurring in my head mentally that I’ll have another shot to get laid and start a casual relationship with another attractive girl the next day.

Okcupid even has studies about camera types and attractiveness.  So, if you’re a guy looking to do better with online dating, get a photographer with a DSLR or use your own.  It’s that important.  Women online are more shallow than they are in real life, there’s all sorts of studies that indicate that.    Just like a guy who wears his worst outfit to the club when he wants to pick up girls, it’s shooting yourself in the foot if you don’t have the best photos of yourself you can possibly take on whatever dating sites that you frequent.

Also, keep it simple and do about 1-3 pics.  I’d rather have one good pic than 3 pics where one is really good and the other one sucks.